“For as long as I can remember the relationship between myself and my mother was toxic and heavy. I have struggled with many relationships in my life because of the trauma I experienced as a child, particularly that with my mum. For so many years I lost respect for my mum, we argued a lot, I was hurt a lot, I cried a lot, we couldn't be in the same room together for too long, I never wanted to spend time with her and I thought about the possibility of cutting her off altogether.
Last year, I decided I was done with this relationship with my mum after another massive disagreement. I could no longer see how this relationship would work and how I'd ever find enough respect for her to take the first step in making it work and if I even wanted too.
About a week later and after a lot of thought, I decided to give Kailah a call.
Kailah was kind and empathetic from the very first conversation and told me she'd be more than happy to sit down and talk to me about what was going on in my life with my mum.
What happened next not only changed my relationship with my mum but my relationship with myself and others.Kailah made me come out of my comfort zone while making me feel safe at the same time. She made me feel completely at ease about opening up and talking about things I had never talked to anyone about in my life. I cried, a lot! And I felt comfortable doing it, with her! Kailah was so patient, so kind, she was warm and compassionate. After our first session, I knew and I could feel that the decision I had made to confide in Kailah was the right one and exactly what I needed. I felt light, for the first time in so long.
Kailah had a process and gave me a 'next step' after each time we met. I loved this! I never knew there was even a process for something like this. She only gave me one step at a time which also really helped and showed me that Kailah really did know how to help me. She really stuck by my side throughout this process and I knew exactly what I was meant to do next. She was always clear and spoke in a way that was simple and easy to understand.
Kailah was real and this is what I appreciated the most. She was honest and truthful in her delivery but always done it in a way to show how much she cared and how passionate she was/is to help others. Kailah taught me so much. So much about myself, my triggers, my emotions, my reactions, the list goes on. The whole process really opened up my eyes and made me see my mum in a different light. Fast forward to after my sessions with Kailah - my relationship with my mum has softened heaps and I now see her through a different lens. Our relationship has blossomed and I now react to her in a different way. I can also seeing changes in the way I interact with people and this has helped in my current relationships. I really couldn't believe that I had finally overcome this pain I had had in my life for such a long time. That feeling was indescribable!
This was such an important journey for me and having Kailah ride alongside me, through the ups and downs of emotions during the process really helped get me through.
Thank you Kailah! What you have done for me is priceless! You provided solutions and helped me overcome the biggest issue I had in my life. I have become more aware of who I am and have become so much more content in my life, especially with my relationship with my mum who I am so glad I can build a relationship with now. I really couldn't have gotten through this without you and I will always be grateful to you for that!
E mihi nui ana ki a koe tōku hoa.”
Wellington, Aotearoa New Zealand